Love chooses you

Got this from cons and jw; it's beautiful.

The Mysterious Thing Called "LOVE"

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.

If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you,and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame; let it go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love.Love chooses you.
All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.
Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love.
They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart.
Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe or coerce it, or reason it into staying.
You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover,there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.
Love has always been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

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Was talking to one of my previous-hall friends and we discussed the idea of having a status. Is having a status really necessary for a relationship? If you love someone, does it mean you need to have a "changed status"? Extremely interesting question.

Conclusion: some may need, others may not. Mostly need. But i think, it may not be necessary.. as long as two people (of opposite sex) willingly go out together and enjoy the time spent together?

Her rebuttal: but you can do that with a close friend.. and she has done it. many other people go out with close friends of the opposite sex. alone. ok maybe i don't haha.

Hmm, what about when a couple does the "stuff that couples do", i.e. "you know what i'm talking about (legally)". hmm yar maybe, she said.

So, does having a status, i.e. "stead", "girlfriend-boyfriend", "partner", empower both sides to certain things they can do, that without the status, they can't do to each other?

But maybe... isn't all these things superficial? Maybe, maybe not.

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To me: girls are an interesting, unexplainable and completely enigmatic entity that makes up roughly 3 billion. Up till now, i think no guy has ever completely understood them. Guys act like commandos when it comes to shopping: they locate the target beforehand, plan their route, move in swiftly and with precision, fulfill the mission objectives, and evacuate, before you can say "pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis". Girls will clear the entire shopping building, trading fire from shop to shop with sales staff, bargaining, and securing at least 3 perimeter zones before getting to the objective. And that takes 5hours. haha

ok enough digging at the poor girls.. we all need to study during study week haha

back to books



Ha~ now.. don't go and bleed my wallet. lol